the 5 languages of LOVE....

I heard about the 5 languages quite some time back and i think its quite true. However, it didn't really bother me then cos i think all 5 of them are important and hence its juz natural for me and bf to show all 5 of them...

I realise i was wrong because out of the 5 langauges, there ought to be 1 or 2 which u strongly exercised and somehow neglected the rest.

It is very important to 'speak' the same love language with ur bf/gf because if u 'speak' a different language with her/him, things complicate. Why? Because if he dun understand Cantonese and u speak Cantonese to him, he'll be in blank!

here's the 5 of them..

1. Words of affirmation
Some people need to hear good words to feel loved. Apart from compliments, some people need encouragement to feel secure and confident.

2. Quality time..
One of the most important languages. Quality time means spending time to do things that you 2 love. Siting down with a cup of coffee and listening to each other. Many times when we are troubled by work etc, we do not need advice. All we need is just a listening ear.
Quality time also means sharing with each other our intimate thoughts deep down in a uncorrupted way.

3. Receiving Gifts.
Some people respond well to visual symbols of love. Recieving gifts makes people happy. They see gifts as love. More gifts, more love. Gifts not necessary have to be expensive. It could be self made, cheap, meaningful. This language will definitely not be a problem to big spender. But it could be a problem to people who see saving as an important aspect.
Lets take this as an investment in your love!

4. Act of service
Helping your love do chores make her/him realise that you actually care for her/him. They will know that you actually want to reduce their burden of work because you love her/him. You are also required to know her/his priority in this aspect because doing the right chores for her/him, she will appreciate more.

5. Physical Touch
Some people feel more secure when they are physically touched by their mate. Be it a huge action like massage or love making.. even small actions like holding hands or kissing allow one feel being loved.
Physical touch is important in marriage life because most problems are solved thru' this language of love. People who speak this language feel better when they are hug silently after a fight or quarrel.



reference to www.fivelovelanguages.com

This Valentine's Day was nothing special. Nothing of tat sort.

I mean.. I didn't wanna have a special date in the first place.

Vday is not an impt day to me.. cos almost all couples celebrate this day..

So i didn't wanna celebrate a day where many people are celebrating as well..

nothing unique.

I had dinner with bert at mussle guy at vivo city. A restaurant where we dine during our 1st year anniversary.

I choose tat place cos i simple love their steak.

It was really 'best' cos i'm not the steak-kinda-person. And for me to say the steak is good.. it is really darn good!

After dinner, we took a walk at Marina Keppel Bay before heading down to Jon's place for a few rounds of poker.

I realise we didn't even took a single picture. .. haha..

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peace.......